tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-421652561520429142024-03-12T20:39:55.524-07:00Musings of a Quarter Life CrisisAll the nostalgia, adrenaline, hyperbole, excitement, disappointment, and contemplation of an old soul.Michellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00498622344222714514noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-42165256152042914.post-17260246856598031732013-06-05T17:46:00.001-07:002013-06-05T17:46:16.077-07:00This is Why My Pastor Hates me<span style="font-size: large;">***DISCLAIMER: This entry is intended to be a humorous look at the endless differences in religions that claim to adhere to the same set of singular beliefs. It is not intended to offend, just to be funny. It's written with a heavy hand of hyperbole, please read it that way.***<br /><br />Confess all sins without ceasing, but only to a priest. Never confess to anyone other than God, but go through Jesus except if the committed sin is one of the Ten Commandments. In this case, bypass the middle man and go straight to God. Lesser sins need only to be confessed yearly under a generic umbrella term (jealousy, gossip, flatulance, etc.). All sin is equal in the eyes of God, but there are levels of sin. Repentance is achieved by sincerely and humbly requesting forgiveness. Forgiveness is NEVER granted without first paying penance, it is only given when the sinner confesses in their heart, except in cases where verbal penance is required. Confession must coincide with actions to prove you're making an effort to not become ensnared in a spiritual game of Double Jeopardy. Verbal and spiritual confession is more than enough, actions will naturally follow suite. Sin is like devouring a salty, crisp potato chip in that once you start, you can't stop. Divine intervention is the singular method for overcoming sin unless you are able to achieve inner peace and enlightenment on your own. This insight is often demonstrated by a sudden urge to spout such trite truisms as, "Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you'll be among the stars."<br /><br />Baptism in the Holy Spirit is an inward sign of personally accepting Christ's salvation. Being slain in the spirit is an outward sign of Christ's work in your heart; it's mandatory for salvation as it demonstrates a true rebirth. Baptism in the Holy Spirit is evidenced by a strong emotional and spiritual guardianship and guidance; there are no outward signs. While spiritual baptism is a nice thing to experience and serves to deepen one's relationship with the Holy Trinity, it is not required for eternal salvation. However, an eternal lake of fire awaits those who cannot speak in other tongues and physically participate in the alter call, where the Holy Ghost is most prevalent. Spiritual indwelling can occur during communal prayer, but typically the dove of the Holy Spirit comes to us in our moments of solitude and peace. The Holy Ghost is most readily available for demonstrative incarnations when two or more believers are gathered together in the name of the Holy Trinity. If you do not experience a burning in your bosom and an out of body experience, you have been misled in the ways of the spirit. You must demand to be physically slain in the Pentecost movement; God enjoys the seeking aspect of proverbially knocking on the door of Heaven and petitioning for a bodily experience. Only meekness will be rewarded, never demand anything of the Holy Trinity. Rather, humbly beg to be made good enough to deserve a taste of the Holy Ghost. Just know that you'll never be good enough.<br /><br />Water baptism is a must, unless you're a 3rd world country resident as Christ doesn't expect his followers to immerse themselves in dysentery. Alaskans are also exempt. After accepting Christ's salvation as your personal gift and way of life, you must immediately be baptized. Baptism is not on a timetable, as long as you believe in the sanctity of the act, you have time to schedule baptism. If you die before you're baptized but after you've professed Christianity, other living Christians can baptize in your memory. Without baptism before death, you will go straight to hell, unless you go to purgatory and earn your way into heaven. You can never earn your way into heaven, you are not worthy. The</span> <span style="font-size: large;">only entrance into heaven is through personal salvation. Baptism is required in conjunction with salvation. In order to best avoid eternal damnation, baptize all infants as soon as they enter the world, but do so by sprinkling blessed holy water over their heads. Never baptize an infant since they have no idea what is being done or why. Baptism will be rendered null and void if the baptisee is not of the age of reckoning (12 unless you're Roman Catholic or Mormon or were born during leap year on leap day) and is not fully submerged in a baptismal fount. Any watering hole will due: a neighbor's bathtub, a creek, or the decorative fountain in the central mezzanine of the local mall, but only if the attached statutes have their lady bits appropriately covered. <br /><br />The pastor/priest/elders of the congregation are the direct mouthpiece for God. As the spiritually appointed Shepherd of the Church, their job is to interpret the Holy Bible and make it accessible to laymen. No one speaks for God, he has spoken through the Holy Bible; his word is clear and concise. Men are fallible, and as such, any attempt at interpretation is inherently flawed. Christ has authorized these holy men to speak, pray, heal, and forgive on his behalf by breathing the literal spirit of heaven into them. This spiritual marriage is the epitome of theological education, no formal training is required. Man is a damaged, imperfect creature unable to fully comprehend the full splendor of God. Intense biblical curriculum is necessary to train the human mind in understanding spiritual laws. It is best if marriage is avoided by these leaders so there are no earthly distraction from their heavenly calling. Marriage and family serve to strengthen a man and provide daily insight into the typical life of the masses making him accessible to the general public. Women are the helpmates of men, they should never lead a congregation. Women are typically tenderhearted and in tune with their emotional epicenter. As such, they are perfect for teaching God's word. A woman's compassion ministers to the very core of her congregation, except to the men who are too busy lusting after her<br />lovely lady lumps and envisioning her in the way David envisioned Bathsheba, if you catch my drift.</span>Michellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00498622344222714514noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-42165256152042914.post-28844414296503880042013-06-03T20:40:00.000-07:002013-06-03T20:43:50.612-07:00The Day After<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: large;">I live in Oklahoma. I grew up in Moore, I work in Oklahoma
City. Tornado season is something I’m very familiar with; growing up, we
learned to prepare for the worst and hope for the best. Over the years as
multiple tornadoes blew through the landscape of my home, I watched as my
hometown was destroyed time and again. And afterwards, every time, we rebuilt.
As a child, I never understood why so many out-of-staters angrily asked us why
we continued to live in Tornado Alley. As an adult, I asked the same question,
eventually leaving for a few years. Last October, my husband and I returned to
Oklahoma. In the ensuing 8 months, we’ve experienced 6 earthquakes and 3 major
F4/F5 tornadoes, 1 of which has been dubbed the worst in recorded history. As
we watched our state ripped to shreds, we asked ourselves again, “Why are we
here?”</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: large;">I’m here because it’s my home. I’ve lived most of my life in
the Texas Oklahoma/Oklahoma Texas region, claiming allegiance to both states at
various times.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>But the truth is, there’s
not much difference between the two states; both are mid-Southern, down home,
and simple. They are full of good people who love whole-heartedly. I’ve lived
outside of the South, and there are certainly wonderful people everywhere, but
here in the Heartland there’s a sense of grassroots, salt-of-the-earth
camaraderie. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: large;">Certainly this feeling of home, of belonging, is magnified
during times of tragedy. Our fortitude was tested, our collective spirit fractured
during the horror of the Murrah bombing and again during the devastation of the
1999 and 2013 tornadoes. And each time, the people of Oklahoma cried, asked
why, dug our heels in and refused to be defeated. Unfortunately, these sad
experiences aren’t limited to rare occurrences in Oklahoma. But, there’s something
special in this red dirt. There’s something straight-forward, a genuine redemptive
quality, that tells us and the entire world that better times are coming. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: large;">It’s the steely calm in the eyes of the families determined
to not be uprooted. It’s the volunteers and donations pouring in so quickly,
and in such huge quantities, that Red Cross is forced to call in additional
workers to handle the avalanche of help. It’s the 2<sup>nd</sup> grader who
busts open his piggy bank to donate 5 dollars worth of pennies to the Samaritan’s
Purse. It’s the unrelenting faith in the basic goodness of people. It’s the
neighbors who spend hours cutting down debris and sorting through what remains of
a child’s bedroom so the parents don’t have to face that sadness alone. It’s
the local businesses that stay open 24 hrs to deliver hot, free meals to
everyone affected by the tornadoes. It’s the sense that when you’re in
Oklahoma, you’re family. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: large;">It’s the way the typical Oklahoman looks forward to the
coming dawn because we know the best is yet to be.</span></div>
Michellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00498622344222714514noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-42165256152042914.post-40765065280261235032013-05-29T22:06:00.006-07:002013-05-29T22:10:49.461-07:00Twister<span style="font-family: Calibri;">The summer before 10<sup><span style="font-size: x-small;">th</span></sup> grade, I moved from Texas
to Moore, Oklahoma. That fall, I joined the throng of pimply-faced, jean-overall-wearing,
sketcher-rocking 14yr olds starting our high school years. In the first period
of the first day, I met Jen. She was a transplant too (from California), only
knew a handful of people in the school, and looked every bit as nervous as I
felt. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">She had long, black Shirley Temple corkscrew curls pinned
back from her face, framing her freckled face and shy smile. She sat in the
very last seat of the very last row of Intro to English; I immediately sat by
her, relieved to see someone who looked friendly and unattached to 40 of their
best girl friends. I said something really cool and witty like, “You have curly
hair. I don’t. I’m new. I bet you couldn’t guess.” At any rate, we became fast
friends. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Moore became the backdrop of our friendship. We logged hour
after hour at the local mall, ate at the locally owned fast food restaurants,
drove the empty evening streets of the loosely connected 80s neighborhoods. We
were too cool to be seen with our parents, so every day after school, we walked
blocks away from the football field to meet my dad for a ride a home. Every
weekend spent at her house, we wandered listlessly from convenient store to
novelty shop, reveling in the freedom a 16 yr old believes she has. We worked
together at a political polling firm, equally hating it with every fiber of our
being and simultaneously loving the freedom our paychecks bought us. Freedom as
defined by the ability to buy CoverGirl products with our own money, but still!
FREEDOM. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Being the popular, up-to-the-minute girls we were, we spent
Senior Skip Day at a local antique store. We commemorated prom with a family
style dinner at an Italian chain; my date forgot his wallet, Jen paid for us
both. We ditched our dates for several dances, threw caution to the wind,
slurped down complimentary cherry cokes, and danced the evening away like the
white girls we are. At graduation, we sat in the same row, our Honors white
gowns billowing around our crossed ankles, crying big ugly tears of happiness
and sadness…excited to see what our futures held, sad to say goodbye to the
daily ritual of high school best friends who are thoroughly familiar with one
another from our handwriting to our favorite vending machine snacks to our
biggest adult fears. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">We were both reporters for the school newspaper, The Lion’s
Roar, eventually becoming co-editors. We spent nearly every weekend at one
another’s house writing angst-ridden teen poetry, watching hopelessly
unrealistic romance movies, and talking about everything from the possibility
of aliens to our views on God. We knew one another’s families intimately, going
on family vacations nearly every year. She was one of the last friends to meet
my grandmother before her death. She told me, in the darkness of midnight, as
we lay on pallets in her living room, that she fervently believed the ghost of
her grandmother visited her home, often stopping by a vase of memorial roses on
the fireplace mantel. The air crackled around us, these infinite moments
shaping our world views with the yellow, fuzzy nostalgia that eventually wears
thin with age and experience.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">As the school year came to a close, we scheduled our Learner’s
Permits tests and made elaborate plans to spend the summer with the windows down,
the music up, and our hair blowing in the wind. Instead, the May 3<sup><span style="font-size: x-small;">rd</span></sup>,
1999 F-5 tornado tore through the sleepy suburb of Moore, our hometown. The
entire town was demolished, houses whisked away in the windy mile-wide vortex.
As my mom and I hid in the bedroom closet, holding hands and praying, I remember
manically hoping Jen was safe. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">After the terror was over, we emerged to a new world of pure
destruction. The news shots didn’t do justice to the damage. Enormous stone
buildings were reduced to teeny piles of grainy sand, whole 18 wheelers were
scrunched into harmless balls of tin, and lives were lost. In 1999, cell phones
were rare among the common so Jen and I didn’t have the luxury of texting our safety
stats. Instead, I poured over newspaper listings of the storm related deaths,
always holding my breath until I scanned beyond her last name without seeing
her family listed. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Eventually the phone lines were restored, and we made
contact. Luckily, we were both ok, our families spared. Years later, her family
would move to Arizona and we’d briefly lose touch. But, in the way of Oklahoma,
a natural disaster would prompt me to search for her online, find her, and
reconnect.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Today, she is the mother of two beautiful twin children, a
boy and a girl. She’s a gifted teacher, caregiver, and leader in an adult trade
center. We remain the best of friends, reminded of our teenage bond and
continuing friendship every time we hear the distant rumble of thunder. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Come
what may, we’re the very best of friends, we’ve survivors, after all. </span></div>
Michellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00498622344222714514noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-42165256152042914.post-39480099407791176822013-02-25T13:51:00.002-08:002013-02-25T13:51:44.779-08:00All in the Family<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;">
<span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">It’s a sleepy day; the overcast sky is a washed out, flat gray. Thick clouds are spitting freezing rain and everyone is running, head down, to the nearest entrance. Jackets and mufflers are spattered with tiny ice droplets and everyone’s hair is matted down in wet tangles. On days like this, my mind always turns to babies. I think it’s the sadness of the bleary day that magnifies the sadness of knowing I’ll never give birth to a baby. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">We’ll never experience the magic of sweaty palms and tingly stomachs as we hold hands and wait for two pink lines to appear. Together, we’ll never have that moment when we realize, “This is real, this is it! We’re going to be parents! We’re going to be someone’s mommy and daddy!” We won’t have funny stories to share of my pickle and grape jelly cravings at 2am or him eating take-out food in the garage because I couldn’t stomach the smell. I won’t have the gauzy, glowing memory of seeing our tiny baby for the very first time on a blurry, black and white ultrasound screen. I won’t pour over “What to Expect When You’re Expecting” books, wondering if it’s normal to have an achy back, dull hair, and fat feet. I will never know the joy of feeling a brand new human moving for the very first time, aimlessly passing the months with teensy kicks and jabs. The baby book won’t be filled with endless pictures of my growing belly. I’ll never experience the bliss that comes when all the hard work has paid off, the pain has subsided, and my itty bitty baby, all pink and squinty, is handed to me. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">We’ll never be able to play that game of “Oh, she has your nose and your mom’s ears! And, I’m sad to report, your Uncle Vern’s toes.” As she grows up, as babies inevitably do, we won’t find ourselves blaming her quirky personality traits on one another’s family genes. If she’s particularly flighty, we won’t say, “Typical, just like a White, through and through.” When she makes straight A’s, we won’t playfully argue over which of us passed our brains along to her, though it would be me, of that I’m certain. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">But, and it’s a big but, through the world of adoption, we can have our baby! Should we be so blessed to be chosen as parents, I hope our daughter knows that she is no less loved, no less wanted than if she were our own biological child. In fact, we may want her even more due to the fact that we have spent years trying everything within our power to get her. I hope she knows that even though she won’t have my nose or her Daddy’s soft voice, she’ll have free run of our hearts, our attention, and our happiness. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">The nursery she’ll come home to will be filled with pictures, fuzzy around the edges with age, of people who loved her long before she existed; white haired grandmas who held me close while I cried, worried that she would never be ours. Tall, beefy uncles who clipped newspaper articles about adoption agencies and offered financial advice. Sweet, brown-eyed cousins who took us out to dinner to offer their support. Mothers who listened to every word of fear and uncertainty, multiple times, and still responded with, “It’ll happen. It will.” without a twinge of doubt in their voices.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Dads who never tired of hearing the doubts, and always offered full support.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: large;">No, her baby book won’t have monthly in utero growth updates. But, it WILL be filled with notes from us telling her how much we want her, how excited we are to meet her, how very loved she is. We’ll balance out all that kitten, rainbows, and chocolate chip filled whimsy with helpful hints about the family she’ll call her own. Hint: Mama CANNOT sing but that doesn’t stop her from belting out Elvis hits at the top of her lungs. Also? Daddy can’t merge into traffic without losing his ever-loving mind. The binding will be stretched and frayed, the pages stuffed with pictures of her big brothers, who if it helps at all, don’t resemble one another any more than she’ll resemble us. Along with the pictures will be stories of the two amazing great grandmas she’ll be named after: ladies from a bygone era who left a legacy of strength, humor, and resiliency. Lorraine who, at age of 50, decided she wanted to be a nurse and so that’s just what she did, graduating at the top of her class. And Addie, who lived to the ripe old age of 90 and surrounded herself and all of her life in bright cherry red happiness, loving everyone so hard, she almost made your heart burst. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">THIS, this is the family she’ll be born into. We may not all be biologically related, but we love each other fiercely, rejoice in one another’s happiness, and support each other in our moments of sadness. And, really, isn’t that what family is all about? Not a similarly shaped face or the unfortunate curse of male pattern baldness, but a shared sense of <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>friendship that runs so deep, these people become pieces of our hearts, forever a part of our very essence. And trust me on this, it’s a Bible-beating, old time religion miracle if anyone can manage to escape the curse of inheriting my skin or B's teeth.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">To make up for missing all those pre-birth belly dances and karate kicks, I have firm plans to pinch her cheeks and tussle her soft, fuzzy head until I get my fill, which I’m not sorry to say kiddo, won’t happen. I hope she won’t mind a quick hair tussle on her 30<sup>th</sup> birthday or a cheek squeeze on her 50<sup>th</sup>. And when she’s here, we won’t think another thought about what we “missed.” We’ll be too busy welcoming our baby girl to the world.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;"></span>Michellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00498622344222714514noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-42165256152042914.post-28715005417364537742013-01-01T14:19:00.003-08:002013-01-01T14:22:12.753-08:00Milo and Otis's 101 Ways to Terrorize the 'Hood<br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Your dogs are very cute and appear to be quite lovable
scamps. But, there’s always a “but” isn’t there? But, they are free roam wherever
their hearts desire for the better part of each day. Unfortunately, this desire
is apparently to be ramblin’ dogs, rolling stones, restless souls. While I
think we can all agree that it’s one of life’s greatest joys to watch Old
Yellar and Lassie bound through ponds and yip at one another as they undertake
life’s great adventure, it’s equally not fun to clean up trash strewn over 19
acres of land because these very same enchanting dogs have toppled our garbage
cans over for the 12<sup><span style="font-size: x-small;">th</span></sup> time this week. It’s also a bummer to step
out of our front door at 6am to let our dog relieve himself only to have him assailed
by your pack of waiting dogs. The postman agrees, being chased by your 7 (!)
dogs anytime any of us leaves the comfort of our homes or cars is an
unnecessary irritant. Perhaps we’ve misread your crew. It’s quite possible
their lungs are full of the wandering Oklahoma wind and their hearts swell with
the bliss only a dog and his bone can fully understand. Even still, this ecstasy
is demonstrated in ways we simply can no longer tolerate. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I think you’ll agree, on the list of the Top 10 Ways to Not
Ring in a New Year is being awoken at 8am by Marley and Company vigorously barrel
rolling into properly stored trash canisters in an attempt to topple them over.
This morning fun was followed up by our dog, kept inside our home for our
neighbors’ convenience, barking for the next 2 hours as your dogs used our
porch as their personal dog run.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Please keep your dogs on your property or assist our entire
neighborhood in cleaning up the trash your dogs tear through EVERY.SINGLE.WEEK.
We love dogs. We just also love our trash to remain in the rubbish bins and our
walkways to remain free from ankle-deep mounds of fresh, steaming excrement. I
have a dream, a dream in which your 7 (!) best friends and our neighborhood’s
four-legged family members can romp and play freely in their respective yards
without the stray holiday turkey carcass, empty wrapping paper tubes, dirty
diapers, and coffee grounds from our collective garbage being strung from here
to Shawnee. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">We agree, all dogs go to heaven, they are man’s best friend,
and they are downright cute. Please don’t let your dogs change this view for us.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If we have to, we will not hesitate to punch
a puppy right in his face. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Sincerely,</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Your Neighbors</span></div>
<a href="http://www.facebook.com/">www.facebook.com</a>Michellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00498622344222714514noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-42165256152042914.post-54543091322741978342012-07-02T18:38:00.000-07:002012-07-02T18:38:55.349-07:00Chuck Norris Approved Cover Letter<br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">I, Michelle, take you, Oh Mighty Oklahoma
Corporation, to be my lawful place of employment. I swear, with God as my
witness to bring my extensive experience with logistics, sustainment program
management, and mechanical organization to the proverbial table. I can also
offer you, if you play your hiring cards right, unparalleled devotion, loyalty,
and creativity. I vow to positively contribute daily to the interoffice
dynamic, employee morale, customer relations (in the non-Biblical sense because
I’m a lady), and overall workplace environment by pledging the following:</span></div>
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</span><span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">While engaging in electronic mail (e-mail) correspondence, I
will never “reply to all” when a simple “reply” is sufficient. I think we can
all agree, nothing good ever comes from replying to all.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">I fervently pledge to remember we live in a fast-paced,
technologically advanced society. As such, I will employee interoffice
communication devices, e-mail, and when appropriate, personal visits. I will
NOT send an e-mail request and immediately follow-up with an instant message,
an uninvited desk visit during lunch break, or a rambling voicemail that is cut
off after 3 minutes because I spent the first 2 repeating, “Hello? Bob? Are you
there? Is this on? I hate hearing myself on voicemail, don’t you?” etc. I also
will not kill trees by using carbon copies in triplicate form when a simple
e-mail will suffice. As you can surmise, when given the choice, I choose Planet
Earth AND comprehensive prevention of rage-inducing snafus. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">Once, when employed as a Staffing Representative, I had the
unfortunate task of speaking before a federal judge, on behalf of my employer,
in a case involving a former employee. To summarize, said employee found his
job duties increasingly stressful. Rather than taking full advantage of the
company’s wide array of counseling services, he made what would turn out to be
an ill-fated decision. Stressed and tired after a hard day’s work, he chose to
unwind with 5 pounds of uncut cocaine and a lady of the evening, courtesy of
his company credit card. As it turns out, this coping mechanism was deeply
frowned upon in corporate culture. Having learned a wise and valuable lesson
from these abysmal relaxation techniques, I vow to you that in seasons of
pressure and tension, I will choose morally upstanding and fiscally responsible
methods of stress management. I fully commit, here and now in front of the
entire staff reading this cover letter, to remain drug and prostitute free,
especially during, but not limited to, times of employment distress.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia;">I promise to dress professionally and in an age-appropriate manner. This means you will never see me sporting a faux-hawk, hipster horn-rimmed glasses with plastic lenses, the ever popular neckerchief, skinny jeans, knickers, "rompers", or facial tattoos. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;"></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">I will honor the unspoken social contract of personal space, particularly when in a cubicle setting.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">As a stepmother, I have been given the gift of near constant denigration in the form of 2 know-it-all teenagers; I can assure you I can take constructive criticism unlike, shall we say, LeBron James. I vow to strive for continuous self and professional improvement, especially if corporate season tickets to Thunder games are given as a tangible incentive.<o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
</span><span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">While both my military and industry experience have afforded
me the qualifications to appropriately utilize buzzwords, jargon, and
catchphrases, I vow to never, under most circumstances*, use the following
idioms:</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">
</span><span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;"></span><br />
<ul>
<li><span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">Take that offline</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">Core competencies</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">Bottom line return on investment</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Georgia;">Out of the loop</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">Central belly button</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">Customer Centric</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Georgia;">Buck stops here</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">At the end of the day</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">Shoot for the moon, for if you miss, you’ll still be among the stars</span></li>
</ul>
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<span style="font-size: 9pt;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">*If one of the listed
expressions is all that stands between me and a Buzzword Bingo victory, I shall
with a heavy heart, relent. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">
</span><span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">These are my solemn vows to you, Oh Mighty Oklahoma
Corporation.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">
</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">Thank you for your consideration,</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">
Michelle Jolie-Pitt</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">
President, Team Awesome, 29 Years</span>Michellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00498622344222714514noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-42165256152042914.post-31144929562437477382012-06-19T15:59:00.000-07:002012-07-02T18:41:07.851-07:00My Reverse Bucket List or If I Was Queen of America<div _yuid="yui_3_1_1_2_134014515537968" class="yiv1161377615MsoNormal">
<span style="font-size: large;">1. Never, ever,
under any circumstances get roped into participating in a marathon. If ever the
need arises to sweat and chafe profusely in front of strangers, remember the joy
of bathing suit season at the local clothing boutique. Said urge will
immediately dissipate.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">2. Accept that Best Picture winners at the Oscars
will inevitably be one of the following:</span></div>
<ul>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">Too long</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">Too “artsy” for anyone other than the director and 5<sup>th</sup> year Humanities majors to understand</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">Have a coma-inducing plotline rife with unrealistic scenarios, unlikable protagonists, wooden dialogue</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">A movie no one in the at-home viewing audience will have ever seen or have a desire to see</span></li>
</ul>
<span style="font-size: large;">3. Spread the message
that the promise “Coming Soon” is open to interpretation. Dear Retail Store:
what does “soon” mean to you? Soon could be tomorrow or 3 years from now. TELL
ME WHEN MY LOCAL BEN N JERRY’S ESTABLISHMENT WILL GRACE ME WITH ITS PRESENCE.
TELL ME NOW. Saying you will open “soon” is the retail equivalent of chastely
kissing your prom date. Like I did because I’m a lady, DAD. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">4. Dole out free throat
punches to people who say, “I could care less” when they mean “I couldn’t care
less.” </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">5. Equip all vehicle
front bumpers with a Gatling. Deploy fire exchange at any vehicle that is in the
right exit lane without needing to exit. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">6. Also, anyone in the
fast lane who makes subsequent vehicles break cruise control. Go fast or get
shot. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">7. Disable everyone’s
“reply to all” button. Nothing good ever comes from replying to all.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">8. When attending a
work meeting, always carry a small bag of angry woodpeckers with you. When someone
non-ironically employs any of the buzzwords and/or catchphrases listed below,
free the woodpeckers. You may choose to jubilantly shout, “RELEASE THE KRAKEN”
as the woodpeckers inevitably peck out the eyes of the offending party. Loathed words/phrases:</span></div>
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<ul>
<li><div class="yiv1161377615MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst">
<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span>Harvest low-hanging fruit</span></div>
</li>
<li><div class="yiv1161377615MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle">
<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span>Shoot from the hip</span></div>
</li>
<li><div class="yiv1161377615MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle">
<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span>Synergy</span></div>
</li>
<li><div class="yiv1161377615MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle">
<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span>Let’s table this discussion until we can ruminate offline</span></div>
</li>
<li><div class="yiv1161377615MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle">
<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span>Touch base</span></div>
</li>
<li><div class="yiv1161377615MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle">
<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span>Buck the system</span></div>
</li>
<li><div class="yiv1161377615MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle">
<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span>Think outside the box</span></div>
</li>
<li><div class="yiv1161377615MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle">
<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span>High burner</span></div>
</li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span>Central belly-button</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span>Singing from the same sheet of music</span></li>
</ul>
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<span style="font-size: large;"> 9. Stop low-flow
toilets. Some things require high-flow; this is a great motto for life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"> 10. As punishment, when a fellow movie theater
patron spends the entire two hour experience exuberantly kicking the back of
your chair, force them to take your “I’m-too-cool-to-be-alive” teenager around
the block for a short drive. Encourage said teen to spend the car ride listing
all the ways his/her parents are stupid and lacking in teenage wisdom and
know-how. This is a guaranteed cure; the seat kicker will return mere seconds
later with a quivering lip and hollow, vacant eyes. He or she will apologize
profusely and promise to never so much as step foot in a public theater again as
long as you, The Stupid Parent, take back your teenager. Immediately, if not
sooner.</span></div>
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</div>Michellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00498622344222714514noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-42165256152042914.post-35146153639608001092012-03-30T17:17:00.000-07:002012-03-30T17:17:46.762-07:00I Will Try To Remember These Things When You Steal My Nachos<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">I, Michelle, take you, Bobby, to be my lawfully wedded husband. And, I swear, with God as my witness, that I will never abbreviate that title to “hubster” or “hubs,” unless doing so ironically, in a faux cockney accent. Furthermore, I will never call you sickening pet names like Shnookums or My Baby Boo, especially in public settings; this is my solemn vow. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">I promise to notice and appreciate the little things you do to make my life easier like opening car doors, mixing the best Pumpkin Coffees, emptying the dishwasher, and cleaning the litter box even after I’ve said I would do it for 5 days straight but haven’t.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">I fervently pledge to make humor and friendship a key element in our home. I promise to laugh off more things and take myself less seriously. I vow to give my best effort to caring about the news, even the “talking head” news shows because you love them so. I agree to watch Harley Davidson and the Marlboro Man without rolling my eyes. I promise to stop sighing heavily and mumbling in a passive aggressive manner when you “borrow” the kitchen scissors and never put them back. I promise to stop dulling your razors and then secretly returning them to the basket for your use. I will remember that even when we don’t agree, we’re on the same side. I will strive to remember that it’s ok if the pantry isn’t perfect, and my way of folding the towels isn’t necessarily the best way, although it IS the prettiest way. I think we can agree on this point. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">I promise to remember how important physicality, chemistry, and passion are in a happy marriage. I will do my part to ensure we remain as excited, enamored, and adoring of one another as we were when we were first falling in love. I promise to listen when you talk and truly hear what you’re saying. I promise to tell you as often as I can how clever, funny, handsome, kind, sweet, sexy, talented, and intelligent you are. I promise to remember and celebrate all the tiny nuances of your personality that make you so unique and wonderful. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">I vow to never walk away from a disagreement with you without returning to make it right. I will love your children as my own. I will listen to your dreams, hopes, and goals and meld them with mine so our separate lives become one. I will encourage you when you are feeling overwhelmed. I will make you smile and laugh when you’ve had a rough day and want nothing more than a familiar, loving face. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">I will make you Frito chili pie and perfectly crisp chicken fried steak when you need a cheat day in the worst kind of way. I will eat steamed vegetables with our spaghetti because that’s the way you like it. I will be open to new ideas and adventures, as long as you are by my side. I will spend all of my days making our life as fabulous, fun, and fulfilling as I possibly can. I promise to uplift you to our children; I will tell them often what a great dad they have and remind them of your love for them. I will be your biggest fan, championing your accomplishments.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><br />
</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">I will thank God every day that He blessed me with you. I will remember, even when we’re not at our best, that you are my Prince Charming, my true love, my soul mate, my partner, and my best friend. I promise to look at you every day and remember that I got the very best one. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><br />
</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">I vow to love you with all of me, heart and soul. I promise to give my all to us and our marriage. I promise to do my part to make our life together flourish, to make our marriage the best decision we ever made. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><br />
</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">This is my solemn vow. </span>Michellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00498622344222714514noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-42165256152042914.post-56003130516787375952012-03-21T16:43:00.000-07:002012-03-21T16:43:50.648-07:00Hand Holding: The Gateway to Fornication<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Kindergarten marked the first and only year I attended a private, religious school. I don’t remember the name of the school, Tabernacle of Eternal Damnation or something, but I do remember my teacher, Mrs. Starks. She was approximately 8 feet tall, as skinny as skinny could be, and had mounds of curly brown hair that she wore in a massive heaping bun clipped to the side of her head with a pastel bow. I remember thinking her head would snap off from the weight of the side bun, but thankfully, it never did. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">My mom worked down the hall in the Pre-K daycare center, and I remember being really aggrieved that I couldn’t just wander down to her classroom any old time I wanted to say “hey” or ask why my PB&J was made with grape instead of apricot jelly, the HORROR. No amount of pleading swayed Mrs. Starks; she was firm on the no-visiting-mom’s-classroom rule, but this didn’t stop me from asking permission every.single.day. for the entire year. I bet that was her favorite part of the day!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Our classroom was co-educational, and I was thrilled that I could sit by BOYS. During naptime, Adrian Delgado and I would snuggle our mats up against one another and furtively hold hands under a shared blanket. One day, Mrs. Starks caught us and told us that Jesus would make our hands rot off if we didn’t stop clasping them with those of the opposite sex before we were grown-ups. It was a chance I was willing to take, but Adrian apparently wasn’t ready for that level of commitment. The next day, he moved his mat ALL the way over to the other side of the classroom during naptime. In retaliation, during out-loud prayer time, I loudly asked Jesus to forgive Adrian for being a booger-picker. I don’t think it was true, but who knows? Maybe it was. At any rate, I was standing in the proverbial salvation gap for Adrian; I was proving my hand-holding worthiness. Still, he was unmoved. We never held hands again. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Every morning, we would line up outside the hallway next to laminated teddy bear cut-outs with our names on them. This took an inordinate amount of time because, as it turned out, kindergarteners couldn’t read. Eventually, Mrs. Starks replaced the bears with new ones that were different colors. From then on, we simply had to locate our teddy bear color to find our spot in the single file line. Once inside the classroom, we spent the morning reciting the Pledge of Allegiance to both the American and Christian flags. Then we counted to 100, recited the alphabet, and sang The States Song. At some point in the day, we played Candyland and ate soggy Fruity Pebbles from white Styrofoam bowls.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><br />
</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">During one such snack time, things took a turn for the worse when, in a desperate attempt to get a second-helping, I told Mrs. Starks that Fruity Pebbles was the food I most missed when living in Africa. I then went on to tell her, in detail, about my family’s time in Africa, serving as missionaries. I even told her that we had left the family car with my grandma while we were overseas because we rode everywhere by elephant. My elephant’s name was Curious George. This story was interesting for 2 reasons: My parents were never missionaries in Africa or anywhere else, for that matter, and Mrs. Starks apparently caught on to my lie around the time I chose to name my transportation elephant after a book she had read aloud that very day. The next day, my dad came to my classroom during Sharing Time and made me apologize for lying, in front of the whole class. During Closing Prayer, Adrian Delgado loudly implored Jesus to forgive me for being a liar. Jerk.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Brian Palmer was a tiny little boy in the next class over who, despite Adrian’s warnings, fell madly in love with me halfway through the school year. Despite his embarrassing prayer, I was still holding out hopes of a reconciliation with Adrian, so I never held Brian’s hand. Despite my rebuffs, Brian would often spend recess picking handfuls of dandelions to present to me during Sharing Time. After several days of this wooing, I decided I liked Brian more than I had ever liked Adrian. So, at lunchtime, I told him, “I’m not going to hold your hand, but you can keep giving me flowers.” Even at age 5, I was selfless like that.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">At the end of the year, Mrs. Starks organized an official graduation ceremony, complete with baby blue gowns and mortar boards, flower corsages for our mothers, and actual gold-plated trophies. Graduation was a very big deal; my grandma sewed me a floor length pink and purple flowered dress with a big white, ruffled collar. Mama sponge-rolled my hair the night before while Daddy shined my white, patent leather dress shoes. The day of graduation, I secretly picked out the trophy I was hoping to win: the shiny green Perfect Attendance trophy. After presenting our Safety Week poster boards, reciting our numerals, and singing Jesus Loves Me, Mrs. Starks called my name to receive my coveted trophy! In a final display of humble sweetness, I held my trophy high and stuck my tongue out at Adrian. </span>Michellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00498622344222714514noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-42165256152042914.post-87521710915888636812012-03-20T16:56:00.000-07:002012-03-20T16:56:07.471-07:00USA and Flo Jo<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">In 5th grade, I was convinced beyond a shadow of doubt, that I was destined to become a professional hurdler. I was in no way an athletic child, I was always picked last for every team sport (rightfully so), and had the hand-eye coordination of a two day old infant. In Dodge Ball, rather than say, dodging oncoming balls, I would simply collapse into a heap on the ground while flailing my spaghetti thin arms around my head in a vain attempt to smack approaching balls away from my face. In the P.E. Jump Rope For Heart competition, I jumped energetically for about 15 seconds. At that point, I decided maybe eating a sandwich in the equipment room would be more fun, so that’s what I did until the bell rang signaling the end of the contest. During Hoops for Heart, I chucked the basketball as far as I possibly could, and watched in abject horror as it sailed a good 4 feet beyond the goal, right into the face of the principal, knocking him, pinwheel style, into the judge’s table. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">While I didn’t possess even a smidge of physical prowess, I did have an unwavering belief that I was Gifted and Talented in each and every way possible, despite continual finite proof that I was in fact not a child prodigy. This was the year my elementary school began hosting short lessons in self-esteem. Already holding the (secret) belief that I was basically the Best Child Ever, I whole-heartedly embraced our school’s positive, self-esteem boosting mantras. This was the year I could potentially be anything! First female president of the United States of America? I had this job in the bag based on my ability to loosely recite the Preamble to the Constitution (if complete accuracy and proper pronunciation didn’t matter). I also already owned a patriotically colored Winnie the Pooh baseball hat and firmly believed that an elephant was a far superior animal to a lame farm donkey. What more could I possibly need to know? </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">Armed with the unflappable conviction that the future president of the free world could surely win a measly P.E. competition, I marched straight into the gymnasium and signed up for Genoa Elementary’s annual Track and Field Day. After perhaps 3 seconds of thoughtful consideration, I scrawled my name to the list of hurdlers. I based this decision solely on the fact that my mom told me I had long legs the night before when I asked her to name my best athletic feature. You’ll note, she did not say I was a great runner or could leap like a gazelle. Although, I think we can all agree, this sentiment was clearly implied. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">The morning of the competition, I asked my mom to pour me a tall glass of raw egg yolk just like Rocky drank before his big fights. Instead, she handed me a strawberry Poptart. Determined to keep my head in the game, I ate the Poptart without complaint and jogged to the bus stop. I was surprised to find that I wasn’t tired after jogging the whole 10 feet (!) from my front door to the bus stop. Obviously this was a sign! I was going to win! Probably, I’d be the fastest hurdler in the history of Track and Field Day. Mrs. Johnston, my P.E. coach, would be so proud; she’d petition the school board to rename the event after me. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">I was antsy all day, practically pulsating with energy and excitement. Finally, the afternoon came and the competitions began. The hurdles were last, so I had to endure an entire hour of watching subpar events. Unwilling to wait any longer, I lined up at the hurdles a full 15 minutes before my heat began. After straightening my red, white, and blue Pooh hat, I carefully crouched down into the runner’s stance, and awaited Mrs. Johnston’s signal. After what seemed like an eternity, the long anticipated whistle shrilled, and I was off! </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">That day I learned a wise and important lesson, and that is: maintaining a runner’s pose for 15 solid minutes is a remarkably effective conduit to immediate paralysis. My legs were utterly useless as they tingled and pricked with sleep. Sensing that Olympic victory, and ultimately the Presidency, was slipping through my fingers, I willed my legs to lurch forward. I took one teeny, wobbling step toward the goal line before directly plummeting; face first, into the ground. Resolute in my determination, I attempted to army crawl under the hurdles; I was doing this for me, my God, MY COUNTRY. Unfortunately, neither my God nor my country heard my silent pleas. I made it to the first hurdle before my dead legs jerked awake, slamming into the side hurdle bar, sending the entire contraption raining down on me in a shower of failed dreams and plastic. </span>Michellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00498622344222714514noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-42165256152042914.post-86276778268727421702012-03-19T16:19:00.002-07:002012-03-19T16:22:56.550-07:00A Time To Clown<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">Seventh grade was the year I, inexplicably, decided I needed tinted eyeglasses. Because we were not, as my parents informed me, the Rockefellars, I was stuck with these glasses for the next 3 years. They were round, huge, and heavily resembled the dark sunglasses worn by the visually impaired. It was, to say the least, an error in judgment. After much negotiation, including a last-ditch recruitment of my grandma, my dad agreed to let me wear jeans to school. This was a HUGE victory for me since we were still practicing Pentecostals, at the time. Sometime in the previous years, we stopped attending the Shiite Evangelical churches and slowly made our way to the Light version of Charismatics. Jeans were a gray area, but having lost the battle over make-up, high heels, and tank tops, I was ready to claim my victory in the pants department. Unfortunately, I did not have the foresight to specify color, brand, or size. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">The first time we met, she was wearing floral MC Hammer pants and I had on a purple t-shirt with shoulder pads. We bonded over using the same deodorant (Very Berry by Teen Spirit). We spent that first evening listening to a Christian Alternative Rock band (the Newsboys) and talking about boys (Ben for her, Gary for me) while our parents played cards downstairs. Ashley was home schooled, so we never had the same classes or circle of friends. Rather, our parents would meet up at Charismatic religious movements, shuttle Ash and I back and forth from her house to mine, and set up weekend slumber parties for us. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">Once, in a fit of Preacher’s Kids (PKs) rebellion, we snuck a cd of Savage Garden into my overnight bag. Safely hidden away in her garage-turned-bedroom, we turned the stereo volume to a blaring 2, leaned into the speakers as close as possible, and quietly hummed along as the lead singer declared his everlasting love for his wife. SCANDALOUS. Friday nights would find us furtively watching Dirty Dancing, the volume turned to a safe 10 on the television, while we did our best rhythm impaired dance attempts. Because Ashley was tiny, and I was a towering 5 foot 7, she always insisted I play the part of Johnny. Apparently, no one put Ashley in a corner. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">In tandem, we would leave our religious upbringings behind, explore the hidden world of right-wing, fundamental Christianity, and ultimately make our way back to personal relationships with Christ. There would be tears, laughter, thrilling happiness, pointless jealousies, soul-baring confessions, and ultimately a calm, peaceful understanding. Ashley was, and continues to be, the single least judgmental person I have ever known. She loves with her whole heart, and while that is worth quite a lot at any age, to a 13 year old 7th grader, it meant the world.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;">Today, she owns a tattoo studio with her handsome husband, is mother to a beautiful, big-eyed baby, and although she would never admit it, can probably still make a mean balloon animal.</span>Michellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00498622344222714514noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-42165256152042914.post-41136886463239903642012-03-16T22:37:00.001-07:002013-01-01T14:56:08.703-08:00These Were Our Wonder Years<div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; line-height: 16px; text-align: left;">
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">In order to best embrace my new status as a mature, sixth grade adult, I carefully chose a floor-length floral skirt, matching v-neck blouse, acid washed jean vest, brilliant white Keds with ruffled socks, and a gigantic gold and pearl necklace to wear on my first day at V.W. Miller Intermediate School. Yes, really. My mom stopped me from carrying my books in my dad’s old leather briefcase. After a very tense discussion, it was decided that my Jansport purple backpack would do just fine, and maybe I should learn to be a little more appreciative of the school supplies my mom picked out for me, especially considering I had all but threatened my imminent death if I didn’t have said Jansport backpack not even three weeks before. Imagine my surprise when I got to school and saw that my stylish Sunday-Go-To-Meeting outfit, carefully selected after hours of deep consideration, was in fact, not stylish at all. All the girls wore flared-leg jeans with Mary Jane shoes and ribbed fitted turtlenecks. Also, as it turns out, mom was completely right about the briefcase.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">This was the year I fell madly, deeply in love with Derek Pomeroy. Derek was in eighth grade and was, of course, impossibly cool. He was on the basketball team, football team, baseball team, and ran track. He won first place in everything he showed up for and had the affection of every schoolgirl, and some of the younger teachers. He was blonde with milky blue eyes, and a perfect tan. He was the Edward Cullen of V.W. Miller, minus the immortality sentence and thinly veiled anger issues. His skin did sparkle though, I swear it did. He wore muted Hawaiian shirts tucked into pleated khaki trousers with braided leather belts while the other boys wore band t-shirts and dark-washed jeans. Clearly, Derek was going places (Middle management, but still! Places!) Alas, I never became Mrs. Pomeroy, despite the elaborate and frighteningly detailed marital history I plotted on the back of my spiral notebooks. Once, when passing in the hallway, he turned to me and said, “Hey. It’s Michelle, right?” Did I casually respond in a nonchalant, cool manner? No. No, I did not. But, I DID scream directly into his face, a mixture of horror and jubilation clearly rendering me speechless. So, there’s that. Amazingly enough, this meaningful exchange did not end with an invitation to the Spring Formal. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">In gym, the girl’s uniforms were black track shorts with gray t-shirts. Because we were Pentecostal, I wasn’t allowed to wear shorts, so my dad spoke with the principal for permission to dress me in sweats. Permission was granted, and he bought me a cherry red cotton sweat suit, not knowing that the school uniform was gray and black. I very nearly died of embarrassment when he told me the suit was purchased on clearance and couldn’t be returned. I spent the rest of the school year trying to convince my P.E. teacher that I had some variation of Typhoid Fever/Dysentery/SARS and couldn’t possibly don my red suit and participate. The excuses worked a grand total of one time. I’ve forgiven Daddy for this. Mostly.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">I was convinced my pre-algebra teacher, Mrs. Britton, hated me because she kept (unfairly, of course) giving me low A’s on my homework. After weeks of telling my parents how much she loathed me, they met with her, without my knowledge. I remember walking to the bathroom, glancing into the open cafeteria and seeing my parents seated at a teeny dining table with Mrs. Britton. I immediately burst into tears, certain she was telling my parents what a horrid kid I was or, even worse, how much time I wasted drawing hearts around Derek’s name in my notebook. After their conference, the principal excused me from fourth period to meet with my parents. Terrified, I sprinted, full speed to the office. Once there, Daddy told me that earning a 94 on an assignment was not a sign of singling a kid out, of hatred, or anything sordid at all. In the ensuing discussion, I would learn that having your parents use a vacation day to meet with a teacher to discuss a non-existent problem was a much bigger deal to Daddy. For the remainder of the year, I was too embarrassed to look Mrs. Britton in the eyes, but she did make a point of gently squeezing my shoulder as she passed by my desk. She also worked out, in full detail, every problem I missed on my homework as a tutoring guide for the tests. At the end of the year, I passed her class with a 100%. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Her daughter, Mrs. Braxton, taught reading across the breezeway from Mrs. Britton’s classroom. She had a massive head of spiral-permed hair, light pink skin, a permanent frown, a gigantic diamond wedding band, and a very precise way of speaking. She was not overly nice, but not overly mean either. Instead, she was very, very serious. She would never refer to her subject as “Reading Class” as our period schedules read. In her lofty, persnickety voice she called it “Intermediate English Comprehension.” She read The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn aloud to my class without any censorship. I remember being shocked that she used the word “nigger” because my mom would edit it out by saying “a very ugly word that makes Jesus sad” when helping with my homework. It was the first time I heard an adult use that word without attaching a personal view to it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Emily was the outspoken one. She was brash, tough as any boy (in fact, tougher), wickedly funny, deeply intellectual, and always up for anything, especially if it involved boys or bands. She could talk about football like a boy, biology like a college student, and cuss like a grown-up (out of our parents’ earshot, of course). Emily’s parents were rich in the way sixth graders view wealth, and often dropped us off at the mall or movies and ordered huge take-out meals for us to scarf down while we snooped through her big sister Natalie’s bedroom, looking for her diary and trying on her old prom dresses and Homecoming sashes. We collectively thought Emily was the epitome of cool because her big sister let us borrow her Mary Kay make-up, Bath and Body Works Sun Ripened Raspberry lotion, and listen to her Celine Dion cds. Emily wasn’t at all like blonde, popular Natalie, but to us, she was a demigod by association. Natalie and Emily had their own wing of the house, so our little gaggle could close the connecting door and sing at the top of our lungs, privately discuss “serious” things without her parents’ interruption, and create complicated handshakes in secrecy. Through the years, Emily and I would keep in touch and grow to be the closest of our little group. Fifteen years later, we would have a horrible, heartbreaking fight that ended our friendship. But in sixth grade, we were soul sisters and the best of the best.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Kim was our token rebel. She listened to wild music, dated boys, and had enormous breasts, even back then. Naturally, we were all insanely jealous and curious at the same time. She was athletic, tanned, and a whirlwind of energy. She was a firecracker, the outgoing one who never met anyone but soon-to-be best friends, the one to suggest all the silly, adventurous escapades we attempted, and the girl who kept us laughing so hard that we’d clutch our sides and tell her to stop, in mock anger. She was also the one who would ask us, in the dead of night after everyone stopped chattering and we were all slowly drifting into sleep, if we really believed in God and if we thought her aunt could see her from heaven. Kim could go from exuberant to reflective in a heartbeat. She would have us all contemplating the philosophy of life and death, as best we could understand in our infinite sixth grade wisdom. Then, five minutes later, the wind would change; she’d turn this beaming, colossal smile on us and dare us to play M.A.S.H. without choosing any “goody-goody” options. Life was never too serious for too long with Kim. She had a huge heart, loved everyone, and was always the one behind the camera urging us to smile. She was so bright, her personality burned intensely; she was irresistible. Kim had an addictive passion for life. Her excitement for everything was contagious; you simply could not be around Kim without having a blast. She’s now married with a beautiful daughter, another baby on the way, and teaches school. She’s as brilliantly energetic as ever and probably the master of M.A.S.H. by now.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Lori was our comedic relief and the exact opposite of a drama queen. While the rest of us took ourselves, our religions, our grades, and our so-called love lives too seriously, she was just out to enjoy life. Her grades were good, she was Christian, and of course she had crushes too; but ultimately, Lori wanted to have fun. She had this big, chortling belly laugh that could almost knock you down with its vigor. If any of us tickled her or made hideous faces in the midst of her laughing, it would get higher and higher, turning from a chuckle into a bird-like screech, until there was no sound at all. She would vibrate from this silent laughter until her eyes watered and her face turned dark, brick red. We loved this reaction, so we spent the better part of every slumber party doing our best to evoke it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">She told complicated jokes with sarcastic, hilarious punch-lines, read books that were far too advanced for our age, smiled constantly, and was an all-around great friend. Needed help with your math homework? Lori was your go-to gal. Wanted someone to tell you if your hair looked weird? Call Lori! Had a secret you wanted to discuss without it getting around the school? Lori was your confidant! She was fiercely loyal and was amazingly balanced and fair. While the rest of us would make and break secret friendship alliances, she remained loving and gracious to us all. She never got in the middle of our squabbles, refused to pick sides, and typically got us to see the humor in whatever ridiculous argument was THE.WORST.THING.EVER. in our eyes. She didn’t take herself too seriously, wasn’t in a hurry to grow up, and loved being a kid. She was quick to hug, unfailingly fun, saccharinely sweet to her core, and deeply caring. Lori was the first one we all called when something Serious happened because she’d cut right to the center of the issue. She and I lost and regained touch several times over the years, always picking up where we last left off. She’s now a school teacher, still as funny and fun as ever, but is, I’m sad to say, an ardent Texas Longhorns fan.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">In my office, I have a framed picture of the five of us taken in high school, a few years after we first met. Kim is, of course, in the center with her beacon smile. Sherly and Lori are on either side of her with their heads leaning on her shoulders, and Emily and I have our arms slung around one another’s waists. We’re all looking to the right, laughing at something just outside the distance of the frame. Probably Derek Pomeroy’s pleated pants.</span></div>
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